Tuesday, February 17, 2009
WHEE~ my com is in a good mood today =D
sat was tiring! LOL laughed till tired... in the morn went for the NTU talk with angela cc n her friend, and i still decided that mathematical science is the course meant for me =D my course =D went amk kpool to find them aftertt, only to realised i'm actually the 1st to arrive-_- played a few games with leslie(non-jyss) and alex, haha was damn weird la, nv even talked to them b4 that =s got better after a while, since alex got try to talk LOL... den they arrived! vanee ky jh aaron(non-jj)... lik finally-_- by then actually the 3 of us played till a bit sian ler-_-... so after a few games, leslie went for his date and the rest of us decided to go to amk lib to find kiatyee junqiang yiyang... waited for them a bit to have dinner tgt with ky n yy, and somehow after the dinner, we decided to have pool again-_-... lol and it was actually alex who suggested it-_-... "ran" 2.4 km, and den jh ky yy started to sing their "siao char bo" to some song-_-... LOL laughed till we all was so damn tired on our way back sia... and they were lik tellin me i have not seen their really true colours yet-_-
sun tutored in the mornin, and my 2nd tuition assignment got cancelled... joined vanee claud mich in lib while waiting for the outin, makan prata! lol after a while they cnt take it le, so they went back while i scrolled for a while in jp... met pt junhao chienhan emer junjie at clementi for botak jones! haiz xueli n carine last min told me they cnt go, very tempted to cancel but no way to inform jj... luckily i didn't! haha crapped, ate, laughed... to me at least had quite a nice time with them... went pool with jh n emer aftertt, the rest had to go home... walked damn long-_- luckily thr de bus stop got 198 sia, if not i need to walk a long way back-_- HAHA junhao keep on own me and emer sia... i wore emer super big jacket also =s... play play play for abt 3 hrs! haha and we didn't even realised it was tt late ler =s lol nice sia, cheap also LOL
mon went work, vanee and guys, vivien and guys came to visit me! and heqiang waited for me to knocked off, and go makan! so at least i got humans ard me sometimes =x... today went bedok teach chem... omg chiong 3 hrs... after all my shortage of slp and all, that was simply tiring... initially was 4 hrs lor! but both of us cnt take it =s lol den went back to jp to meet grace, passed her the flower and my passion card so that she can sign up for her course... and omg i forgot her xmas card again... i can save it for this yr ler i think =s bumped into ivy, and went lib to makan prata again =x mich claud vanee was thr... stayed and chatted for quite sometime, den left
and at the rate i'm eatin, i'm gonna gain back my 5 kg in no time =s time for more exercising LOL
random:
one of my fav flowers =D
oh ya something i didn't blog abt... last wed after goin to tgps, i went ks hse to bake cookies with them! haha at 1st only wanna go chap one leg a while, den end up since i was dere, kop some dough and made a few for aaron(jj), since i cnt make flowers for him ma... not bad, though certain batch a bit hard =x
the cookies!
and glad that u girls like the flowers =D
and i really want more jobs so that i can work more days every week... AND I WANT CHALET!!! hopefully can find a cheap and good one for all of us! before dickee fly~ chalet without him is weird =s
MATHS ROCKS
copyrighted from ivy's blog, good article LOL
her blog got
bigger version, 16 Feb
The key to choosing the right partner is to look for a person with good character, not simply good personality. Character determines how he will treat himself, you and one day, your children. Character is the foundation of any healthy partnership. A relationship may be likened to a cake, where personality is the icing, and character, the substance. When you're deciding whether a person is right or wrong for you, instead of asking "Does my partner love me?" You need to ask, "How capable is my partner of loving?" If your partner has an anger problem, he is incapable of loving you. If your partner hasn't "grown up", he is incapable of loving you. We are going to study the seven qualities to look for in a partner. These qualities are the basic building blocks of good character in a person.
Quality #1: Commitment to personal growth
What are some of the most common forms of problems couples face? One person
wants to work on the relationship and the other doesn't. One person tries to talk about problem issues and the other refuses. One person sees areas that need improvement and the other is in denial. Commitment to personal growth means : (a) Your partner is willing to receive help and guidance. There is no way a relationship can work if one partner refuses to seek help when necessary. This quality is something you must seek out in the beginning of a relationship . Because by the time you face a crisis in your relationship, it is often too late. (b) Your partner is conscious of his blind spots and emotional handicaps. It is dangerous to become involved with someone who is oblivious to his weaknesses and problem areas. There is no worse deception than self-deception and we need to admit our faults to one another. Pride and stubbornness is the quickest way to turn a partnership into a battleground.
Quality #2 : Emotional Openness
An intimate relationship is not based simply on sharing a home, a bed or a bathroom; it is based on sharing feelings. Your potential mate must have the ability to feel, know what he feels, desire to share those feelings with you, and know how to express those feelings to you. Many men and women are unhappy because they are involved in a relationship with a partner who can't express feelings. If your partner can't identify and share his feelings with you, he is not ready to be in an intimate relationship. What is the purpose of being with someone who is emotionally shut down? Staying in a relationship with a person who cannot share feelings is a form of self-punishment. Another way to describe emotional openness is "emotional generosity" - someone who is generous with his love, giving love freely without restriction. You are involved with someone who easily tells you how much he loves you, and shows how much he appreciates you. The opposite of emotional generosity is "emotional stinginess" - someone who holds back love and emotions as if they were in limited quality, offering you tiny bits and pieces of one's heart at a time. Emotionally stingy people will make you beg for love. You would have to pull their feelings out of them, they expect you to make a big deal of the tiny scrap you receive. Emotional openness is a vital treatment in a partner because it gives you access to his soul. It provides a way into his heart, without which one cannot become a soul-mate.
Quality #3 : Integrity
This is the consistency of character. Your actions match your words. Your choices match your vision. Your behavior match your beliefs. For a love relationship to work, honesty and trustworthiness are essential ingredients. Knowing that you can always trust your partner gives you a tremendous sense of security. If you have to live in constant fear that your partner is somehow lying to you, it will be impossible for you to relax in the relationship. You would always be unsure, doubtful and resentful. Look for someone whose actions match his words. When your partner is consistently honest with you, you will naturally trust him.
Quality #4 : Maturity and responsibility
There are people who are just aren't ready to be in a committed relationship. They may be lovable, and they may even love you very much, but if they haven't reached a certain level of maturity, you will feel you have adopted a "child" rather than a lover. How much do you know if your partner is mature enough to have a relationship? (a) He can take care of himself. If your partner has grown up sufficiently, he should be able to earn enough money to support himself, keep his bedroom relatively clean, know basic personal hygiene, etc. Our outward life is a reflection of our inward life. If the guy you are dating is messy outside, he is probably a real mess inside. If he is not grown up enough to take care of himself, what makes you think he can emotionally take care of you? (b) He is responsible. Maturity doesn't come with age; it comes with the acceptance of responsibility, doing what you say you are going to do. Your word is your bond - paying your bills on time, keeping your promises, showing up punctually, not letting people down, etc. Everybody deserves to be loved, but not everyone is ready for the responsibility that is required in an adult relationship. (c) He is respectful. One of the ways we know a child has grown up is his respect for people around him. Children have no understanding of boundaries. When they don't get what they want, they get into a temper tantrum. Men don't behave badly in public places. How do you know you are having an adult relationship? See how respectful he is of your feelings. Does he demean you publicly? How respectful is he of your boundaries, time, possessions, other people's feelings?
Quality #5 : Healthy self-esteem
Your partner can only love you as much as he love himself. A person with low self-esteem loves in order to feel good about himself. A person with a healthy self-esteem loves because he feels good about himself. The healthier your partner's sense of self-esteem is, the stronger your relationship will be. (a) He doesn't abuse himself, but takes good care of himself. The more you love yourself, the harder it will be for you to abuse yourself physically or emotionally. You can always tell how someone feels about himself by observing how he treats himself, the way he takes care of his body, his clothes and his possessions. All these are reflections of self-esteem. If he mistreats himself and doesn't mind it, you can be certain that he won't mind mistreating you either! (b) He takes action in his life. A person with low self-esteem is usually a procrastinator. He avoids action because he is scared to death of failing and feeling worse about himself.
Quality #6 : Positive attitude towards life
There are two kinds of people in the world: positive people or negative people. Of course, we want to be with the positive type! Yet, how many of us end up in relationships with the negative sort- always fearful, worrying, anxious, problem-focused, complaining and pessimistic about the future, not trusting easily? Love is a positive. It grows in an atmosphere that is positive and shrinks in an atmosphere that is negative. Relationships are much easier when you are with a positive person. You work through conflicts faster. There is less blame and more cooperation. Most of all, there is more love!
Quality #7 : Personal Chemistry
How does one define personal chemistry? It is very hard. You either feel it, or you don't! But one thing is certain: both you and your potential life partner need to have some form of personal chemistry in order to distinguish your relationship from a friendship. A word of caution here: personal chemistry doesn't have to be instant. Gradual attraction is usually more genuine because you are not just focusing on the physical looks, but the whole person. If you never felt personal chemistry or attraction to your partner even after a reasonable period of seeing each other, don't proceed! You are unlikely to develop those feelings overtime.
--I Need a Nap--
11:46 PM
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